I’m dating this woman. She’s forty-three, fifteen years older than me. Right from the beginning, she told me we weren’t built to last. I believed otherwise because there was something about her I had never seen in the women I’d dated before. Apart from her age, she has a vintage perspective on life. Her advice is divine. Anytime I’ve listened to her, something good has happened to me. I want this to last.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>
She loves me too. She tells me I fill the spaces in her life until there’s no gap left to fill. I don’t fully understand what that means, but when we’re together, it feels like we’re the only two people in the world. She has two kids, eighteen and fifteen years old. Her marriage didn’t work out, which is why we’re together.
She takes care of my emotional needs very well, and whenever there’s an opportunity out there, she directs me to it and shows me how to seize it. Through her, I landed the job I’m doing now. Through her, I bought the car I’m currently using. She showed me a piece of land and said I could have it anytime I’m ready to build. But how do I build a future she’s not part of?
I want this to be the real deal, but in her mind and logic, we’re not meant to be known or seen as a couple. For three years, I’ve been kept in the dark. Even her kids think I’m just a friend or a young colleague. When they’re around, we act like a master and a follower. When they’re gone, she lies on top of me and does whatever she pleases with me.
Being in the dark is suffocating. I want us to be official. I want more than just being the guy in the dungeon who only comes out when the darkness is ripe. She doesn’t want to have that conversation. Anytime I try, she raises her hand to stop me. She doesn’t want to listen. The phrase “Age is just a number” gets on her nerves. She doesn’t want to hear it.
I want to settle down before I’m thirty. I want to settle down with her. How do I get around the barrier she’s erected to avoid this necessary conversation? What do I do to convince her that being with me is worth it and that we won’t end up as a joke, like she anticipates? She’s scared of something. How do I convince her that her fear is valid but shouldn’t determine our future? Please help.
