Right from the beginning of the pregnancy, he wasn’t present. I had to go through the journey as though I impregnated myself. I am talking about every aspect of the pregnancy term. He didn’t contribute a dime for antenatal care nor for hospital bills when the baby arrived. Baby clothes, powder, pomade, diapers, name them: I bore all the costs by myself. Well, my mum helped.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>
When the baby was born, his family showed up for the naming ceremony. He knew about it but he didn’t come with them. They presented some items on his behalf.
Throughout that time we used to talk but not consistently. Our relationship never ended, you know. It just faded out like the end of a song. One moment we were in love and inseparable, and the next moment I was pregnant and he was nowhere to be seen.
We only spoke on the phone from time to time. I tried to appeal to him and get him to pay child support but he wouldn’t budge. So after the baby came, my mum reported him to social welfare.
He works in the prison service but this guy said he didn’t earn much. The lady at social welfare asked him to pay GHC150 monthly because of this. He decided on his own that he would pay GHC100 instead. I didn’t complain. Nonetheless, he was inconsistent with payments.
We reported him back to the lady at social welfare. All the times they summoned him he never showed up in person. So this time around they called him and spoke to him. He said he would change so they let the matter go.
He didn’t change. That issue was six years ago but nothing has changed. At some point, I decided to report him to his OIC. When I got there some of the officers asked me what my purpose was. They gave me a form to fill and I stated my purpose in it.
When they saw it they called me aside. “Please don’t report him,” they said as they assured me they would talk to him, “he will pay the money consistently.” They even called him in front of me and spoke to him. He assured all of us he would pay the money on time and regularly.
It was another one of his lies. Till now, he pays the money as and when he pleases. It was only last year that switched from GHC100 to GH200.
When he sends that money nothing else concerns him. School fees, feeding fees, hospital bills, clothes, shoes, books, whatever the kid needs is none of his business. I have done all I can think of to get him to pay more but he is set in his ways.
Our child is eight years old. What would GHC200 do to take care of an eight-year-old child’s needs? If he was even sending it monthly, it would have made some sense.
Unfortunately, I have to call him several times before he sends the money. When I call him too, he doesn’t always pick up. Sometimes I have to keep calling him for weeks before I get a response from him.
At the end of the day, I am beginning to see that he is who he is. On his own, he won’t do what needs to be done. Maybe unless moved by a strong hand.
That’s where I have gotten to. I want to report him to his superiors at work. I didn’t go through with it the first time I tried talking to the OIC but now I am ready to do what’s necessary.
The older the child gets, the higher his expenses. I need all the financial assistance I can get. Am I doing the right thing by involving my baby daddy’s superiors at work? This guy hasn’t even seen the child since I gave birth.
