She Earns More Than Me—So Why Is She Always Asking for Money?

She has a well-paying job. Sometimes I envy her job, but she’s my girlfriend. She lives in her own apartment, drives a company car, and can afford certain luxuries that my money can’t buy. I worked hard to make her my girlfriend because, in my mind, women like her were builders—everything they touched turned to gold.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>

From the beginning, she wanted me to take her to places I couldn’t afford. I drew the line and explained how my finances were set up—I couldn’t overspend beyond a certain amount each month. We had an extensive discussion, and she agreed it was a responsible approach.

She stopped asking for those outings, but once in a while, I take her out to have fun. What I don’t understand is why she constantly asks me to send her money (Momo) for one big issue or another—and the amounts are never small.

“Can I have GHC2,000 to fix my car?”
“I came to see my seamstress, but I’m short on money. Can you top up my wallet with GHC1,500?”
“A friend is selling something cheap because she needs money. I don’t want to miss it. Can you give me GHC5,000?”

Sometimes I give her half. Sometimes I’m blunt and say I don’t have it. Other times, I rant and explain why she doesn’t actually need what she’s asking for. I thought she’d stop, but she hasn’t.

Last month, I nearly broke up with her over this. She begged endlessly and promised to live within her means. A week later, she messaged: “Babe, trust me, this is different. I just need GHC500 as a top-up for something. This is a loan—I’ll pay you back.”

She called it a loan, so I gave it to her. She still hasn’t paid me back. She’s not poor. She’s not in need. She earns more than I do. Why does she urgently need my money every day? Is this a psychological problem?