Popular Nigerian media personality, Toke Makinwa, has shared that regret is exhausting and she has embraced being single and childless at 40 without looking back.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>
In a new episode of her YouTube show, Toke Moments, released on Friday, the on-air personality and businesswoman spoke about her experiences, stating that she has chosen to embrace her reality rather than dwell on what could have been.
Makinwa, who turned 40 in 2024, said she has no regrets about her life choices.
In the video, Makinwa advised against living in the past, emphasizing that regret is a heavy burden no one should carry.
“Regret is so exhausting,” she said. “Make today the last day that you actually live in regrets. What happened, happened. You could have done better, but you did not know better. Now you know better, so do better. Move on. Just move on.”
She further noted that many people allow their past decisions to define their future, urging them to let go of situations they cannot change.
Makinwa did not shy away from addressing the expectations placed on women regarding marriage and childbirth.
She revealed that although she once struggled with these thoughts, she has since accepted her reality.
“Honestly, the hardest thing I could say out loud to myself is, ‘I am 40, I am single, I am childless.’ I said it, and I did not die,” she stated.
The lifestyle entrepreneur explained that, unlike when she turned 30 and felt excited, reaching 40 was initially terrifying due to the weight society places on that milestone.
However, she made it know that she has learned to change her perspective.
“I can look at my life and say, ‘Oh my God, I’m 40, I don’t have a child, I don’t have a husband, people have passed me.’ Or, I can say, ‘I am 40, I am a boss, I’ve built an empire, I am one of the most resounding voices out of Africa, I have the love of family, I am in great health, I love what I do.’ It’s all about perspective,” she said.
Makinwa also spoke about outgrowing certain relationships, stating that some friendships are meant to be temporary.
“One of the biggest lessons for me through my years is that some friendships expire, and that’s okay,” she said. “It doesn’t mean they are bad people. It doesn’t mean I’m a bad person. If I’m a villain in their story, that’s fine too. I don’t even correct stories about me anymore. If you ask me what happened between me and someone, I just say, ‘Whatever they told you is what happened.’ I’m not explaining myself.”
She maintained that rather than holding onto expired relationships, people should learn to walk away and focus on those who genuinely celebrate and support them. The…..CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLE
