My Parents Says He Is Too Old To Marry Me
Marcus didn’t tell me he was looking for a girlfriend. He said he just wanted us to be friends. I agreed, and we kicked things off.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>
I’m an apprentice at a hair salon, while he owns his own company. He makes footwear on a commercial scale and is also a pastor of his own church. When you see him, you will know that this is a man who is doing well for himself in life. This is why I felt special to be the object of his attention.
Every time I saw him, he made sure to give me a gift. He always brought something sweet and edible, or money. As an apprentice, I don’t earn any income. If anything, I end up spending money on food, transportation, and the equipment I need for work. So every gift Marcus gives helps to cushion me.
As our friendship grew, he asked me to marry him. Let me be honest—I accepted the proposal because of my financial situation. I feel like marrying him will change some things in my life.
The problem now is my family, especially my mother. They were nice to him when I brought him home. They welcomed him with smiles and Nigerian hospitality. But the moment he left, my mother turned to me and said, “You won’t marry that man.”
I was surprised. “Why? He is a good man. He will take good care of me.”
“Is it only about provision?” one of my relatives asked. “Look at his legs. Are you not too young to resign yourself to a man who has a limp?”
Marcus had an accident that affected his right leg. He has difficulty walking as a result. My family believes a man with that kind of impediment shouldn’t be my husband.
When I tried to explain why he is the right choice for me, my mother asked, “Who is chasing you out of here that you want to get married at this age? You are only eighteen. That man is even too old for you.”
Marcus is thirty-five.
Nothing I have said to convince them that he is the choice I made has worked. Marcus also keeps asking when we can take the next step toward marriage. I don’t have the heart to tell him that my family won’t accept him.
On more than one occasion, this man has told me that anyone who wrongs him faces dire consequences. “I don’t know how to forgive and leave it for God. If you offend me, you will taste the repercussions,” he says.
Looking at all the hopes this man has that I would become his wife, won’t he be offended if I tell him I can’t marry him? I don’t want him to hurt me.
What do I do in this situation? What do I even say to him?