I Will Forgive His Cheating If He Fulfills Just One Request For Me

Kwame told me four years ago that he liked me. He didn’t just say it. It showed in his actions. I liked him too. I liked how calm and laid-back he was. I couldn’t reciprocate his efforts though. The timing just wasn’t right for me.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>

While I felt I was successfully pulling away from him, he called me one day and said, “Akosua, don’t leave my life even if we don’t end up in a relationship. You are one person I never want to lose as a friend.”

I was on a mission to walk out of his life, but that statement touched something inside me. He is a good man. So why not stay in his life and be his friend?

Along the line, his mother fell ill and had to be admitted to the hospital where my sister works. That’s when we became really close. Seeing his love and dedication toward his mother melted my heart. I started seeing him differently. My heart started getting excited whenever he was around.

Sadly, his mother didn’t make it. It was a difficult time for him. I wanted to help, but I didn’t know how to. The best I could do was be his friend.

A year into our friendship, he proposed. I said yes without hesitation.

Things were great those first few months. He was always a perfect gentleman. I liked that about him. But one day it all changed. He insisted on having his way with me when I visited him. I didn’t consent, but I got tired and allowed him to get his satisfaction. When he finished, he apologized. The deed was already done, so I chose to let it go.

Later, I found out he had been talking to his ex. Some of their chats were unpleasant. I confronted him, and he assured me he would stop. He never did. From time to time, they still chatted.

Just as I was getting used to her presence, another woman came into the picture. He met her through his cousin. I wasn’t comfortable with their constant communication, but he insisted they were just friends. The lady knew me and even admitted that he told her he had a fiancée. The fact that she knew me gave me some assurance that they weren’t more than friends.

When it was time to plan our marriage, we couldn’t agree on the church where we would have the wedding. I proposed we have it at my church, but he refused.

I had agreed to everything he wanted. This was the one thing I expected him to compromise on for my sake. But he refused to do it.

It made me question myself and my place in the relationship. If I was willing to overlook his shortcomings and agree to all the plans he made for the ceremony, why couldn’t he just do one thing for me and agree that we have the wedding at my church instead of his?

I told him to hold on with the official introduction. I wanted to buy some time to figure a few things out first.

Luckily, I had to go do some work out of town. I was there for less than three months. I returned to find out that he cheated on me with his supposed friend (the one his cousin introduced him to) the entire time I was gone.

I loved him, but I was too hurt to carry on with the relationship. Nothing he said to apologize worked. He even called people I respected, including my siblings, to plead on his behalf, but I didn’t go back.

It’s been more than a year since the breakup. I am trying to move on, but it’s hard. He hasn’t moved on either. He keeps asking me to take him back.

I’ve met people who are better than him in every way. But Kwame was my first. He is kind and very caring. I think those parts of him still hold me bound to him.

For some reason, I’ve started talking to him again. He’s still talking about marriage, but I’m afraid. I don’t know if he’s truly changed.

Nonetheless, I am ready to forgive him for all the pain he caused me in the past if he’s willing to fulfill my one request—that we do the marriage ceremony in my church. Will I be crazy to give him another chance if he agrees to make the compromise?

– Deborah