I Want To Marry A Career Woman But My Girlfriend Doesn’t Want Higher Education

My dad was transferred to Takoradi to head a church a few years ago. That was where I met Maame Ama. I didn’t expect to find love in a new place so soon. Heck, I wasn’t even looking for love. But there was just something about her that pulled me in. It felt like a siren’s call. I remember vividly that first time I saw her. Without intending to, I muttered the words, “She is going to be my woman.”......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>

Her brother and I are instrumentalists in the church. It made it easier for me to become her friend. Through our friendship, I took Maame Ama’s number. That’s how everything started.

I didn’t believe her when she told me she was single. I asked her, “Is something wrong with you? Because how is a beautiful girl like you single?”

She laughed and said, “Maybe the right person hasn’t come along yet.”

In my mind, I said, “I am here now,” but I told her, “Let’s hope he comes along soon enough.”

Things were easy between us. Our friendship bloomed beautifully. In no time, she became my girlfriend. I was so happy.

We dated for three years but we kept it a secret from a lot of people. It was her idea for us to keep things on the down low. “You know my parents are strict. They won’t take it well if they find out I have a boyfriend.”

I understood her. After all, I had met her parents. I didn’t want them to come between us so I went with her terms. The only people who knew about us were a few of my friends.

Loving her felt as natural as natural as breathing. How could I not? Maame Ama is a typical church girl. She is calm, and kind. The kind of woman most men I know want for a wife. She was also a virgin when we met.

As far as I was concerned she was my future. But along the line, we started having serious relationship issues. Most of which had to do with trust. Certain things she did just didn’t add up.

So one day I went through her phone. To my disappointment, I wasn’t her only man. She had two other men on the side.

“What’s the meaning of this?” I confronted her.

“Oh, it’s nothing. I am only flirting with them. Nothing has happened between us.”

It was a lie. She snuck out at dawn to go and meet them. That was the same time she met me as well. It was the only way we could see each other because of her parents’ tight leash. Imagine how I felt knowing she shared something I felt was special between us with other men.

I loved her but my heart couldn’t bear the betrayal. I walked away from her.

While I was healing, Nana Ama moved to Takoradi from Kumasi. We started talking because she didn’t know anyone here, and I became her only friend. Nana Ama is also very beautiful. She doesn’t come to church often, sometimes once a week.

She’s not as calm as Maame, but she’s open with me. It felt like a breath of fresh air after dating Maame, who was so secretive. She is my girlfriend now.

I should be happy that my heart is learning to love someone new but there’s a problem.

Maame is back in my life. She came with proof that she ended things with the other guys because of me. “Losing you taught me that you are the only man I want.”

She’s currently in nursing school. Deep down, I feel like she’s the kind of woman I want to settle down with. A career woman.

Unlike her, Nana Ama hasn’t continued her education after SHS. She is not ready to go back to school either.

I honestly don’t know what the future holds. But if I’m being real with myself, I know I want a woman with a stable income as a wife. However, I don’t want to hurt Nana Ama. What do I do?

– Bright