In the early stages of my relationship with Kwaku, I found evidence that he had been involved with another woman. It was irrefutable proof but this guy denied it. He said nothing happened between them. “How can you think this way of me? This lady is just someone I and my friends were pranking. Everything you saw were signs of that prank, trust me.” I did not trust him. I knew what I saw and there was no way that was a prank.....KINDLY READ THE FULL STORY HERE▶
Nonetheless, they say you give grace to the people you love. This is why I chose to turn a blind eye to everything I saw and forgive him. It was difficult but I let all of it go and we carried on with the relationship.
We were both working in the same company when we began the relationship. The money we earned was not so much but it was enough to get us by. He lived with his family at the time. Despite their difficult financial situation, Kwaku’s earnings at the end of the month helped their situation a little. Unfortunately, they lost that little help when my boyfriend left our company after we had been together for one year.
When he stopped earning income, things became more difficult for the family. He became another mouth to feed, with no support from anywhere. I was living alone and still working. I figured I could help make things easier if I asked Kwaku to move in with me. I wasn’t sure he would agree but when I spoke to him, he did it.
Shortly after he moved in, he got a teaching job. He earned GHC350 from the job. At the end of the month, he would send GHC100 home to his family. I knew his financial situation so I didn’t expect anything from him. I paid our rent when it expired without taking a pesewa from him. I fed him and clothed him with no complaints. Whatever he needed for himself as a person or as a man, I provided it for him. Not once did I ask him to pay a single bill. I paid it all.
This is a man I loved. As long as we were together and doing our best for each other, I was okay. I didn’t mind being the breadwinner of a two-person household even though I struggled to do all of it. I just wanted him to be happy and comfortable.
For the three years we’ve been together, I sent gifts to his family every Christmas. This man cannot sit somewhere and say I don’t like his family or that I have no respect for them. Sadly, I can’t say the same for him. I don’t know why but he seems to have a problem with my family. He gets upset when they ask to visit me.
Even my own mother and sister, I have to persuade this guy to agree for them to visit. Meanwhile, my parents don’t even know that I live with a man. I ask him why he has a problem with my family and he tells me he doesn’t. Yet he talks about them anyhow. No consideration for my feelings whatsoever.
When he sees me talking on the phone and it’s with my family, he would start murmuring disrespectful things under his breath. After the call, he would find a way to pick a fight with me. Anytime I confronted him about his behaviour, he would get angry and say, “Why are you always overreacting when it comes to your family? I would say something harmless but you would take it to heart and fly off the handle.”
I know he pretends not to know what he is doing to make me feel I make things up. That’s one thing I cannot stand. How can there be any change if you won’t even accept what you are doing wrong?
Apart from his issues with my family, I saw some messages on his phone. He has been talking to some girls. I didn’t say anything about it because I didn’t want him to know that I was unto him, and then start covering his tracks. All of that doesn’t matter anymore anyway. He finally broke the camel’s back so I have decided that I am done.
It happened when we were having an argument recently. I mentioned my mum and the next thing I heard from this guy was, “Mtcheeeww.” I was shocked. I shouldn’t have been after everything he had done in the past, but I still was. How can you say you love me but react this way to the mention of my mother? “That’s it. I am done with this relationship,” I said as I broke up with him.
Since that time, he has been begging me to forgive him. Isn’t breakup the only option on the table if your man doesn’t respect your family, especially your parents? If not for them, I wouldn’t even exist for you to see me and claim you love me. So why can’t you show them a little respect? It’s not as if they’ve done anything to you. Or I am the one who is overreacting like he says?
He Started Having Second Thoughts About Us After His Encounter With My Ex
