I Had To Deceive My Husband To Get My Marriage Back On Track

I married the love of my life three years ago. Before marriage, intimacy between us was amazing. We had endless energy for each other. We could go at it all night and never get tired. Our insatiable passion is one of the things we easily bonded over.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>

After two years of getting to know each other, we took the big step and walked down the aisle. I had big plans for us. I thought about all the ways we would enjoy each other as a young married couple. Only for me to find out immediately after the ceremony that I was two months pregnant.

Although we were thrilled, I was slightly disappointed. I wasn’t ready for us to begin our parenting journey yet. Regardless, I had to embrace it and make it work.

I thought pregnancy would lower my libido but surprisingly, it increased it. This made my husband very happy. Throughout the pregnancy, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other.

I had the baby through a cesarean section. So I had to wait for my body to heal before resuming intimacy. When I was ready, my husband was gentle and cautious. He took his time, lest he might hurt me.

Apart from that, he was helpful with child care. He learned how to hold and take care of the baby when we were two weeks old.

When our baby was three months old, I got pregnant again. It was unplanned but just like the first one, we welcomed it. We were a team throughout the pregnancy term. Then I had the baby and he changed drastically.

He stopped doing all the things he used to do to lighten my burden. I would clean, cook, wash, and take care of the toddler while nursing the newborn. My husband wouldn’t lift a finger to do anything domestic. When I am exhausted and in bed, he would crawl on top of me and demand I fulfil my conjugal duties.

He would go to work and return late. If he was at home, he would sit on the couch and press his phone. Sometimes he would even send me on errands but wouldn’t offer to watch the baby. I would have to strap the child on my back to get things done. It was as if I was the only one who cared about the welfare of the family.

All that heavy lifting left me feeling exhausted, and unappreciated. It even affected my self-worth. I tried to talk to him about it, but he didn’t change.

When I couldn’t take it anymore, I resorted to drastic measures. I decided to feign sickness and see how he would handle things.

I requested a two-week leave from work to put my plan into action. On the first day, my husband noticed I wasn’t feeling well and took charge. He ordered food for dinner, bathed the kids, and put them to bed. The only thing he didn’t do was help them with their homework.

Usually, even when I was under the weather he would still initiate intimacy. But that night, he respected my boundaries. I was so surprised. The next morning, he got up earlier than usual, made breakfast, and prepared the children for school.

For the first time in a long time, I slept peacefully, feeling grateful for this small but significant change.

After his shift, he came home took care of dinner, and completed all my daily chores before retiring to bed. I was thrilled to see this transformation. When I heard him snoring away his exhaustion, I felt a renewed sense of happiness.

On the fifth day, I decided to test the waters. When he climbed into bed after finishing his chores, I initiated sex. To my surprise, he said, “I can’t tonight. I’m too tired.”

I smiled internally as he listed all the things he had to do. I told myself, “Now he will know how it feels to work till exhaustion sits in your bones.”

A week later, I “recovered” from my “illness”, but my husband continued to pull his weight.

When it came to the bedroom too, he didn’t impose himself on me. First, he would ask if I was tired. It made me feel more connected to him. So now intimacy doesn’t feel like an obligation anymore. It’s flourishing again.

Why am I sharing this? I’m overjoyed that my plan worked. It has brought us closer in a way that filled my heart with a deeper love for him. I am praying this newfound understanding and teamwork will last for the rest of our journey together.