How Do I Tell My Husband That Our Child Belongs To My Ex?

I was with Augustine when my ex-boyfriend, Jerry, returned to my life. We had broken up because he said he wasn’t ready for marriage but he couldn’t stay away. I too didn’t turn him away when he came back because of how deeply I loved him. Ours was the kind of love that had us always finding our way back to each other. Except this time, I had another man.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>

I should have told him about Augustine but for some reason, I couldn’t bring myself to. Just as I couldn’t tell Augustine that my ex was back in the picture. What good would it do me anyway? The man I was with wanted to marry me while my ex wasn’t ready. So I just kept quiet and dated both men simultaneously.

Along the line, Augustine told me he was ready to tie the knot. We had already begun the process and gotten our families involved. We were just putting a few things together so we could set the date. And finally, he came up with the date.

While preparations were going on, I had to find a way to break the news to Jerry. He didn’t already know there was another man in the picture. And I wasn’t about to come clean at that moment. So I told him I met a man who wanted to marry me.

“You said if I meet someone who is ready for marriage I can go be with them. So I have agreed to marry this man.”

“You are going to marry a man you just met?”

I explained that he was a friend already but he just proposed marriage. “I know he is a good man. He is a young pastor.”

In the end, I let Jerry understand that I would no longer continue what we have.

“Let me see you one last time then. Let’s end things with a memorable goodbye,” he requested.

I agreed and we met right before I got married. As always, it was magical. After everything, we didn’t say much to each other. What more was there to say anyway? We accepted that we had come to the end of the road and moved on.

A few weeks after marriage, I found out I was pregnant. Per my calculations, it wasn’t my husband’s pregnancy. Immediately, I called Jerry and told him.

“This pregnancy is seriously going to complicate our lives if you keep it. You are a married woman carrying your ex’s baby. How are you going to explain that? It’s best you get rid of it.”

“I can’t do that. I already sinned when I fornicated with you. I don’t want to add to my sin by doing the unthinkable. Besides, what if this is the only child God gives me? I can’t take that risk. I will keep it and face the consequences when it comes.”

When he tired of trying to persuade me, he gave up and supported my decision.

The first trimester almost broke my body. I had to quit my job and stay at home. During this period, Jerry reached out and said, “I want to send you money every month to take care of yourself since you are no longer working. That way your husband will not be too burdened by the cost of solely taking care of you and the home.”

I manage a small business. That was how I explained to Augustine the extra money I brought home.

Throughout the pregnancy to the time I gave birth, Jerry sent me money every month. When the date of delivery got closer, he sent me a huge amount of money. He said, “Put this aside in case there’s an emergency that requires money.”

After delivery, he increased the monthly payments. He is not doing all this with the intention of claiming the baby or trying to get close to me again. He says it’s only fair that my husband is not left to shoulder the responsibility of another man’s child.

I also make sure whatever money Jerry gives me benefits the home. I am still not working but Augustine doesn’t ask where I get the money from. He believes it’s all coming from my business.

I know it appears that I have it all figured out but I don’t. Yes, I have a perfect system that works but here’s the thing, I feel guilty about the deception. The fact that Augustine is a pastor even makes me feel worse. He doesn’t deserve to raise another man’s child thinking it’s his own.
I Was The Man In The Relationship And He Didn’t Like It

So many times, I have thought about coming clean so I can face the consequences of my actions. But I don’t have the courage to do it. The guilt is also eating me up the longer I stay quiet.

I don’t know what to do. Is it even a good idea to tell him? What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him, right? Besides, Jerry is contributing to child care so he is not doing it all alone. Even if I have to tell him, how do I go about it? How do I break such news as delicately as possible? I’m stuck between my desire to confess and my lack of courage to do it.