The changes began when we were one year into the relationship. We fought about even the most mundane things. This is a man who used to cherish me. You should have seen us together. We were so beautiful. Neither of us was perfect but I was certain we could always work out our problems.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>
I believe on my part, I tried. Whenever I did something wrong, I owned up to it and apologized. I have a hot temper. I have been told this several times. I have also seen for myself how much I hurt people when I am angry. One time I got into an argument with Klenam again. My anger was off the roof. I ended up saying things that I wouldn’t have said if I was clear-minded.
Since that day, I made a conscious effort to work on my anger. I did it so we would have a peaceful relationship.
When it comes to him though, I can’t say the same. While I wouldn’t go to bed until I had made peace with him when I was wrong, he wouldn’t even acknowledge that he did anything to offend me.
Sometimes I would sit him down and tell him, “The other day you did something wrong that rubbed me off wrongly,” then I would pour out my heart to him and conclude, “I will appreciate it if you don’t do that again.”
Instead of apologizing, he would rather get angry and give me the silent treatment for days. I would rather go to him and beg that we should forget about everything I said and carry on.
I was willing to put my pride on my chopping block just to make things work with him. He, on the other hand, treated me like I was an option. It all clicked when I saw his chats with other women.
Some of the women, he was flirting with. Others, he was involved with. It broke my heart. I thought about everything we had been through and all the plans we had in place for our future. How do I just walk away from all that? I loved him too much to entertain the thought. So I tried to talk to him and see if he would let it all go for my sake.
Klenam snapped at me. “You cannot control me, and you certainly cannot tell me who I can and cannot talk to.” This same would get upset and frown when my phone beeps. Sometimes the messages are from MTN but he would get angry first before asking who texted me.
I was so unhappy. I often hid and cried in the bathroom whenever I was at his place. The entire time I was sure he would change even though he showed no signs that he would.
It got worse when he reconnected with his ex-girlfriend. The lady was in a relationship with a man abroad. She and this man even have a child together but it didn’t matter to Klenam. He went crawling back to her.
He denied their relationship but I found proof and showed it to him. He showed no remorse. He just told me, “If this is how you want to behave then it’s over.”
After that, he went around telling his friends that he ended things with me because I complained too much. He didn’t tell them the things he did that pushed me to complain.
One of his friends who heard about the breakup called me. “Klenam told us what happened. Are you alright?” He then asked to know what happened. When I narrated everything to him he got angry. “How could he do this? I am going to confront him.” I asked him not to.
From that day, Klenam’s friend became my companion. He called often to ask how I was doing. He would text me throughout the day just to remind me that he is here for me.
Klenam doesn’t know that we talk. That’s because I don’t talk to him anymore. And Kofi doesn’t answer my calls whenever the two of them are hanging out. He said, “I don’t want my friend thinking I am betraying the brotherhood if he knows I am being a friend to you through this difficult time.”
However, he chose to handle the conversation with Klenam was fine with me. I only became concerned when he started making advances on me during the Christmas season.
“My whole life, I never met a woman as loyal, beautiful, and free-spirited as you. This may sound selfish but I want to be with you. I am just worried that if Klenam finds out it will ruin our friendship.”
I didn’t believe anything he said. Even when he announced, “I think the only way to make this work is if I invite you and Klenam and then I confess my feelings for you in front of him.”
I thought it was all part of a plan to test me. So I dismissed everything he said. Then I went looking for answers. I found out that he wasn’t lying. Klenam, indeed had no idea we were even talking.
Although I had never thought of him in an amorous way, he has truly been supportive. I don’t know how I would have handled my pain these past few months without him. Could he be genuine? Or I would be making a mistake if I accepted him? I am not so sure what to think or how to feel about him considering he is my ex’s friend and all.
