He Says I Shouldn’t Let His Other Girlfriend Come Between Us

In November 2023, I came to Ghana from where I live and work in Dubai, for vacation. I was single when I got to town. So I was open to meeting new people. That’s why I didn’t object when my friend introduced me to a “great” guy she knew.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>

His name is Blay. He checked all my boxes. I like a man who can make me laugh. He did that so effortlessly. When it came to conversations, he was it for me. Not only does he communicate with depth but he is an attentive listener. I could ramble on and on and he would just stare at me as though I was the most fascinating person ever. Let’s just say I was more than happy to meet him.

I fell in love with him faster than a cat stealing fish from its owner. Luckily, he was there to catch me. “Whatever you feel, I feel it too. Our hearts are in sync,” he said.

I was in Ghana for two months. It sounds like a short time but a lifetime happened within this period. What didn’t we do? Where didn’t we do it? We always went where our passion carried us. It was fun and crazy. There were times we even forgot to use protection.

By the second month, I got pregnant. “I am not ready for a child now,” he said, “I can’t even afford to take care of myself some days. You have to understand that if the timing was better, I would have been a happy man. I would have asked you to keep it.”

He didn’t need to talk too much. I understood what he meant. I was twenty-two at the time, living in a foreign land. A baby wouldn’t fit in my life.

He held my hand and we went to the hospital together. The procedure was over in no time.

Our relationship continued after I left for Dubai. He told me about his plan to start a business. “All I need is some capital to help me start. I promise if you give me a loan I will pay it back once the business picks up.”

I believed in him. I believed in his dreams. What better way to demonstrate this than to support him financially?

The good news is that the business took off when I sent him the money. Every day he went to work, he came back with updates. Sometimes I gave him suggestions when things were slow. There was an ocean between us but we were a team. We built his business together.

He didn’t disappoint me when he started reaping returns. He repaid every pesewa I loaned him for the business. He started showing kind gestures as well. He would send me money randomly. Sometimes he would say, “Babe, use this for your hair.” Most of the time though, he would just give for giving sake.

I felt seen. I felt appreciated. I felt loved, especially when he introduced me to his mother and siblings.

A few months ago, I returned to Ghana to take care of something urgently. I was with him one morning when a number called his phone. The caller’s name was, “Empress”.

“Who is she, and why is her number saved as Empress on your phone?”

“She is just a friend, and Empress is her name. There is nothing going on between us.”

To prove he wasn’t lying, he showed me their chats. From what I saw, the lady was always texting him, even when he didn’t respond. I noticed an unplayed voice note. Before I could say it, he decided to play it to my hearing.

“I know you have a girlfriend but I still want to be friends with benefits with you. Or you say I’m mad?”

My eyes almost fell off my face when I heard the Empress’ voice propositioning my man for a no-strings-attached arrangement. He too froze in shock, and then said, “OMG, I wouldn’t have played this if I knew that’s what she said.”

I was so hurt. I left his place and went to my mum’s. I just couldn’t understand why he would even entertain someone like that.

“I am sorry about that unpleasant incident,” he said when he called, “I assure you nothing of that sort will happen again.”

I was mad but I forgave him eventually and we moved past it.

I stayed in Ghana for a month before returning to Dubai. The day I got here my brother called me. He said he went to Blay’s place to pick up his motorbike and saw a light-skinned lady coming out of the room to hang clothes.

“Is he cheating on you? Or she is one of his sisters?”

I couldn’t answer him. I just said I would call him back. When I asked Blay about it he denied it.

“Is your brother sure of what he is saying? I was the only one at home when he came.”

In order not to drag the issue, I let the matter go and the relationship continued.

Just last week, I received a message from a lady on TikTok warning me to stay away from her boyfriend. I was confused.

“Who is your boyfriend?”

“I am talking about Blay. We’ve been together for two years. Don’t pretend you don’t know him. I saw you wearing his clothes in one of your videos.”

While I felt hurt, I also wanted to know more. Thankfully, she was willing to talk.

When she asked Blay who I was, he told her I was his cousin who lives abroad. She even sent me a voice message he sent her, and I heard him say I was his cousin.

“Can I see your picture? I want to know who I am talking to,” I asked her.

I recognized her immediately I saw her photo. I never met her but Blay showed me her photo two weeks into our relationship. He said she was his ex-girlfriend.

I was devastated.

My friend, who was with me at the time, advised me to play along and pretend to be his cousin to avoid drama. So I did. I acted like a sister-in-law to the girl. She was so happy to know me and even added me on Snapchat. Now she watches all my stories.

I waited for a few days before I sent Blay the lady’s photo with the caption, “Should I leave you for this girl?”

He went silent for a while. Then he said, “I will call you back.”

Twenty-four hours passed before he called me back. He didn’t deny anything. He came with a half-baked apology. That’s if I can call that an apology.

He said, “I am sorry about everything. But I don’t see why you should leave me for her. She is a Muslim so I can’t marry her. Besides, she is too young for me.”

That’s it? Is that supposed to make it all go away?

He expects me to go on with the relationship as if nothing has changed. I understand that we are miles apart and he might get lonely. My question is, if I can stay faithful to him, why can’t he also do the same? Will I be wrong to walk away from him?