He Is Doing It With His Cousin’s Wife But That’s Not The Most Painful Part

When I first started suspecting them I thought it was all in my head. I just couldn’t wrap my mind around the fact that my husband would cheat on me to start with. He was never the kind to stare at another woman longer than necessary. No lingering touch disguised as friendly affection. He didn’t even have female friends.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>

I told myself I am one of the lucky wives who never has to worry about another woman causing problems in my marriage. I was sure I was safe. “I have a good marriage,” I would tell God in prayer, “thank you for giving me a story that is different from all the horror stories out there.”

Truly, we didn’t have any problems. When it came to money, we had an understanding. He does what his capacity allows and I take care of the rest. Sometimes he brought nothing home at the end of the month. Yes, he went to work alright but he’d tell me, “This month my company faced some losses. So management hasn’t paid us yet.”

When this happens, I step up and take care of everything. I was taught by doing this, my husband would love and respect me more than anything. “Men want peace. So if he knows that you can handle things when he is down, you will always be at the forefront of his heart.”

Well, while I was being supportive and understanding, my husband was out there making a fool out of me. As I said, he is not one to be seen in the company of women. So I didn’t know who to point at when I started noticing the changes.

When he was not at work, he was always at home helping me take care of the kids. This is why it took so long for me to notice that he had another woman in his life.

It was the long hours of phone calls that gave him away. The other thing that made him suspicious also had to do with his phone. He was always busy typing really fast and smiling at the phone. I would look at him and wonder who or what my husband had on his phone that was more amusing than me.

I didn’t make a big deal out of it at first. But my curiosity got the better of me when he didn’t change.
So one day I went through his phone looking for answers. I am not exaggerating when I say not even in my wildest dreams would I have imagined what I saw. The person on the other end who took my husband’s time and attention from me was his cousin’s wife. His own cousin from his father’s side, guys.

I was stunned and confused at the same time. I had seen enough to make me suspicious of them but not enough to accuse either of them of anything.
I confronted him about it and he said there was nothing going on.

“If you read our chats you will see that she is the one who initiates our conversations. I only engage her because I don’t want to be rude.”

What he said was true so I left the matter alone. I thought after that conversation he would change but he did not. He continued spending long hours on the phone and doing all the things that made me suspicious of him.

In October last year, I got curious and went through his phone again. This time around I saw enough. They were not just texting. They were sexting.

I confronted the two of them and they said it meant nothing.

“Oh, how can you think like that?” the lady protested, “We were just playing. Something for laughs.”

“That’s my cousin’s wife, for god’s sake,” my husband said in his defence.

Once again, I let the matter slide even though I was unhappy.

Last month, I was looking at my husband’s financial records when I saw that he sends money to the lady regularly. Even during times when he told me he did not get paid at work, he sent her money. With this, I knew beyond reasonable doubt that they were indeed lovers.

This time, he couldn’t lie. He admitted that they had been sleeping together and done so much more. It hurt like hell when he went into details about their sordid affair. The painful part about the whole thing is that it’s more than a fling.

He didn’t specifically tell me they are in love but he might have as well said so. I mean, we are married but we don’t have a joint account. Nonetheless, he and this lady have a savings account together. Is this not proof that they are in love?

“She makes me put money in the account every month. And I do it because I don’t want to disappoint her,” he confessed.

This means all those times he told me he didn’t get paid were lies. He was using the money to fund his affair. Is this fair to me? We have two children together and a third one on the way. For months in a row, he watched me take care of all the bills with the little I earned from my hustle.

This affair has changed me so much. All the love and trust I had for him is gone. The joy and innocence that once coursed through my veins when I spoke about my marriage has turned into anguish in my heart.

He says he is sorry. He has been apologizing since the day he confessed everything. In my heart, I have forgiven him but I am still in pain. Sorry does not magically undo all the lies and betrayals he brought into our home.

The old me would have freely let it go but this new me my husband created doesn’t want to let them off so easily. I want them to pay. I want to give them a fraction of the pain they’ve caused me. Especially his cousin’s wife. The fact that a married woman can do this to another woman is what I am most pained about. What’s the best revenge I can deliver to both of them? Maybe it will soothe the ache in my wounded heart.