He Caught Me Lying Twice. How Do I Win His Trust Back?

Cyril and I started dating in 2022. We went through a rollercoaster ride for a year and a half. Then we broke up. It was a messy breakup. The kind that had us not talking to each other for an entire year.......➡️CONTINUE READING THE FULL ARTICLES HERE.

In 2024, I gained admission to the university and met someone new. We were together for five months. We had to go our separate ways because he wanted the cookie but I didn’t want to give it to him.

After that breakup, another guy came onto the scene. His name is Thomas. He was different from the others. Honestly, there was nothing special about him. Nor did he treat me in any way that made me feel special. I can’t explain why but I loved him more than I loved the others.

When it got to him, I lowered all my inhibitions. I let myself go completely. He was the one who broke my virginity.

Along the line, Cyril came back into the picture. He wanted me back but I was with Thomas. I told him, “I am no longer the innocent girl you loved. Life has changed me. I have done things. I let my boyfriend eat the cookie I never gave you.”

He didn’t mind. “I am still here. I will be your friend,” he said.

As time went on, Cyril became my confidant. Whenever Thomas and I got into a fight, I would tell him. If he disrespected me, I’d go running to this ex of mine who wanted me back.

In October last year, I got into a big fight with Thomas. “This time around I am done,” I told Cyril, “I am going to break up with him.”

I meant what I said but my feelings for Thomas were stronger than my will to let him go. I ended up reconciling with him a few days after the fight happened. Later that night, I went to see him and we did it. All of this happened when I was writing exams.

I went home after exams only to find out that I was pregnant. Shit!

I was scared. What would people say? What would become of my education? Most importantly, how would my mother take it? Oh, my mother! The thought of what she would do to me alone was enough to drive me to the decision to get rid of the pregnancy.

Guess who was by my side during this difficult time? Cyril. Thomas was nowhere to be found. I mean, the guy told me point blank that he didn’t care what I did with the pregnancy. “You can keep it if you feel you are ready for that. You can also get rid of it if you want. Your body your rules,” that’s what he said.

Although Cyril didn’t pay for the procedure, his presence alone was everything I needed to do what I had to do. Needless to say that I broke up with Thomas for good, after the whole process was over.

Now, I am back in school and Cyril is back to being my boyfriend again. He is restless because he is at home while I am sharing the same space with Thomas on campus. I have assured him that I won’t cheat on him but he has made it clear he doesn’t trust me.

To make matters worse, he caught me in a lie. Here is what happened. He has been supporting me financially since I returned to school. One day I asked him for money to buy a handout.

I added something extra to the original price of the book. Unfortunately, my Gmail is on his phone. So he saw the actual price I paid for the book.

He got angry and lashed out.

“I can’t believe you lied to me. I give you everything. All you had to do was ask.”

“You are a very disloyal person. Do you know what you did was stealing? If you wanted extra money, why didn’t you ask me?”

He went on and on even after I apologized. Yes, the extra money wasn’t much but I understood him. My behavior was in poor taste. I assured him I wouldn’t do it again but like Taylor Swift sang, old habits die screaming.

Just recently I had to send money to someone. I was having a conversation with him when it came up. He asked me, “How much is the money?” I will give it to you to give to the person.” I was happy. I was literally bouncing off my toes when I mentioned the amount I intended to send.

Now, when I was transferring the money from my account to the person, I reduced it. The next morning he called and asked how much I sent. “Oh, I sent the full amount,” I lied. I had completely forgotten that Cyril would get a notification from my email of the transaction details.

He was so disappointed in me. “This is the last time I am letting this slide. The next time you do it I will break up with you,” he warned.

He also told me that if he meets someone better than me he will consider dating them. I know I messed up but I don’t want to lose him. I love him with all my heart. He also loves me deeply and it shows. All the guys who came into my life treated me badly except him. He is the only man who puts up with my shenanigans and does everything possible to make me happy.

What can I do to regain his trust? I don’t know what I will do if he leaves me.