If You Love Someone, Do You Rush Through Their Cooking?
Maybe this is not a problem, but something in me is restless, watching my husband treat my meals the same way every day.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>
Our marriage is new, just a little over three months old. We dated for five months and married in the sixth month. Out of the five months we dated, my husband was abroad for two months. So technically, we dated for three months. He’s quite older—eight years older than me—but the respect is there, and the adoration is ever-present.
We are both introverts. It was worse at first, but currently, we are trying our best to fully occupy the spaces we find ourselves in.
A little background about me…
My husband is my first-ever serious boyfriend. He’s the first in everything intimate. I think it’s one of the reasons he married me. It was his first question when we started getting to know each other: “How exposed are you?” he asked me. He wanted to know if I’d been with other men. My answer was no. “I’m very green, sealed, and unbroken,” I answered.
We took things from there and married as quickly as possible. The problem now is the way my husband treats the food I cook. He will quickly eat his food and get up to go watch TV, leaving a huge chunk of the food on the plate. I thought I was overfeeding him, so I reduced his portion. He still left some in the bowl. When we eat together, he will eat very little and watch me eat the whole thing while he engages in conversation.
Then he started coming home with ordered meals. When he’s eating those meals, he takes his time. He savours every morsel, talks to me while eating, and even asks if I’m enjoying the meal. He will eat everything and ask if he should order the same thing the next day.
He does the same thing when we eat at a restaurant or even at his mother’s house. He treats the food he eats very well, and his posture and facial expressions back his feelings toward the food. When it comes to mine, he rushes through it as if he’s in an eating competition with his unseen ancestors. So one day, I asked him, “Did you enjoy the meal?”
He didn’t even look at my face when he said he enjoyed every bite. He answered quickly and went to sit in the hall. Does he have issues with my meals, and he’s not able to say it? Or when you love someone, you can’t wait to finish the meals she serves you.
It might sound very minor, but this is eating me up. I’ve lost confidence in my cooking abilities, and I quiver when I’m adding spices to food, thinking it’s the reason he doesn’t enjoy my meals.
