He Threw Our Relationship Away For A Hook Up Girl

We became friends because I saw that he is intelligent. Teddy has great potential. He is also respectful and very humble. My heart softened even more toward him when he told me he was estranged from his family. “I had to leave home to get away from my stepdad. He was making my life miserable,” he explained.......CONTINUE READING THE ARTICLE FROM THE SOURCE>>>>>

When he started working at my workplace, he didn’t have anywhere to live. It was my boss who gave him a place to stay while we worked. I decided to be his person—the one he could count on as family. He, on the other hand, chose to fall in love with me.

I remember when he asked me, “Will you consider a relationship with me? I have grown to love you these past few months.”

I shook my head and said, “I have never imagined myself in a relationship with a man I am older than. It’s just not my thing.”

He didn’t take no for an answer. He said he didn’t mind the age. “All that matters to me is the connection we share.”

True, we had a special connection. Always did. I was his confidant. Whatever life choice he wanted to make, he would seek my counsel first. I liked being that person for him, but there was nothing amorous about it for me. However, I wasn’t seeing anyone at the time, so I decided to give him a chance. After all, successful relationships are built on the foundation of friendship.

Along the line, my boss evicted him because of some renovations. He didn’t have anywhere else to go. I had my own place in our house, so I spoke to my sister about Teddy’s impending homelessness, and we agreed that he should move in with me.

My family became his family when he moved in. They all treated him like a brother. He had applied for nursing school before then, and he received his admission letter while he was in my room. We were so excited.

“You are going to a school full of women. If you get there and someone shows interest in you, come and tell me, okay?” I joked, and we all laughed.

One week into his stay on campus, he changed. His attention was divided whenever he spoke. The calls became infrequent. Text messages received late replies. You know—the usual signs they give you when they are detaching from you.

I called him one day and said, “Be honest with me. What’s going on?”

“I met someone new. She has been coming to me. We are seeing each other.”

“You are seeing each other, how?”

“She said she is interested in me. I’m also interested in her. She is 19.”

“You see what I told you? You are in a school full of women. You and I have been good, but you’ve met another woman within one week. This is what I get for dating a younger man. I am disappointed.”

He said he wanted to be with me and also with her. I didn’t agree to that arrangement. I walked away and left him to have his lady.

A month after that incident, I found out I was pregnant. I was very devastated. When I called him to talk about it, he asked me to keep it. I looked at our situation and said, “I am not going to keep it.”

While we were having the back and forth, a lady called me. “This is Teddy’s girlfriend,” she introduced herself.

“Please stay away from my boyfriend. You are stressing his life.”

I laughed. “I don’t know who you are, but I won’t disrespect myself by talking to you.” Then I hung up.

I almost cried. My heart was so heavy. I couldn’t believe that he traded everything we had for another woman within one week. When I took care of the remnants of our relationship, I felt so broken. I’m not proud of it, but I laid some curses upon him. I blocked him as well.

My sisters advised me to exercise patience. Four days later, he texted me. I didn’t know that if you block someone via call, you’d have to block them via messages too.

I don’t remember the full content of the message, but he said I was right. He admitted he did a foolish thing. He asked me to forgive him.

He told me, “It turns out she is a hook-up girl. I was wrong about her, and I screwed things up with you. I’m sorry.”

I told him, “I have forgiven you, but I have taken you as a brother. I wish this whole relationship thing never happened. Age will always be an issue, and I will be insecure about it.”

When school went on vacation, he had nowhere else to go. He had to come back to my place. I could tell he was embarrassed about it—but what choice did he have?

I have become his sister, his mother, his friend, his everything. So I didn’t turn him away when he came back. I feel I should be there for him.

Despite living with him again, I don’t trust him anymore. If he left for another woman within one week, then what would he do in the coming years?

The irony is, my feelings for him have intensified since that whole debacle with the other lady. I don’t know if it’s love or emotional attachment. I don’t want to get back together with him, but I also don’t have the heart to sack him from my place.

What do you advise I do?

– Sharon